It is so easy to forget that we are in charge. That we have tools. You have something that no circumstance can take away and that is your will.
I know, sometimes it feels that we can think our way into finding whatever answer we are seeking if we just spend more time thinking about it. But in fact, your mind needs to step back in order to get some clarity.
So how can you use your will to get your mind to work for you, not the other way around? Meditate.
You sit down, close your eyes and use your will to focus on breathing through your nose. Meditation trains your mind to concentrate on a single point. In this case, it’s the feeling of oxygen coming into and out your nose. This is the anchor. Your mind will want to start thinking about everything else. Stop! Focus on feeling that nice oxygen going in and out your body. This is your anchor.
This is why mediation is like strength training for your will.
Sit down.
Breathe through your nose.
When you catch yourself looping something over in your mind. Breathe through your nose. Focus on your breathing as if your life depended on it. Before you know it, you will feel better because you officially willed yourself into having peace of mind.
Success!
Gentle Reminder:
Take it in strides. No one ever went to the gym and started bench pressing hundreds of pounds on their first day, or second day or well, you get the point.
Your will is the boss of your mind. Your breathing is the motion that keeps you anchored. Keep at it, it WILL get easier.
-K